Section 1.1: Understanding Overwhelm

During my drinking days, I often sought relief from stress through alcohol. Overwhelm manifested as:

• An unmanageable to-do list.
• The pressure to maintain a clean home, prepare meals, and excel as a parent.
• The challenge of single parenting while my partner was away for work.
• The strain of hosting events solo.
• Agreeing to social invitations that didn’t truly interest me.

Recognizing our unique strengths and passions is crucial. It's important to identify what we excel at and focus on those areas, while letting go of activities that drain us.

Subsection 1.1.1: Strategies for Reducing Overwhelm

Cooking, for instance, is a task I find daunting. From meal planning to shopping and cooking, it can be overwhelming. However, I prioritize healthy eating for my family.

There have been times when we opted for meal kits, which alleviated the stress of planning and shopping. On other occasions, I would prepare meals for the week ahead on Sundays. Currently, I utilize a crockpot freezer meal system, which has significantly reduced my stress levels. We enjoy nutritious meals without the pressure that once made me consider drinking.

Section 1.2: The Importance of Saying No

Especially during the early stages of sobriety, it’s crucial to simplify your life.

Whatever that means for you, do less. Consider ordering takeout, enjoying cereal for dinner, or skipping social outings if you’re not inclined. Prioritize saying “no” frequently.

In time, you can gradually incorporate more activities, but only those that genuinely resonate with you. The primary focus now is on maintaining sobriety—not striving to be the ideal partner, parent, or neighbor.